Entering high 九色视频 can be an exciting experience, but for some teenagers it can also be scary, intimidating and confusing.
According to one study, of all high 九色视频 students feel a great deal of stress on a daily basis. As author and film producer writes, there鈥檚 a 鈥�.鈥� The cause? Abeles says that 鈥渆xpectations surrounding education have spun out of control,鈥� with excessive loads of activities, homework, and sports.
As I explain in my book, 鈥�,鈥� this stress can be excessive if kids are ill-prepared. Like many parents, I鈥檝e wondered what I could have done to help my teenagers adjust well to the first year of high 九色视频. As a parent and teacher, here鈥檚 what I鈥檝e learned.
Why all the anxiety?
A few of the factors that can cause include going to 九色视频 for the first time with who are essentially adults. Your teen is now one of the youngest in the 九色视频, having come from a 九色视频 where she was among the oldest and most senior. The change can be jarring.
Your teen also has to get used to a new 九色视频 building as well as new teachers and classrooms for every subject. I know from experience that teens might worry, perhaps even obsess, about their new teachers: Will I like them? Will they be too strict? Too hard to understand? They鈥檒l also likely worry about the work being too difficult, how they can achieve satisfactory grades and if they鈥檒l be able to make new friends.
In some unfortunate cases, teens may also have to deal with , , intimidation or . Studies have shown that between of students in grades 6-12 have been bullied.
What can parents do?
How can you, as a parent, help your teen manage their anxieties in a healthy way? Here are six ideas:
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Be caring, empathetic and affectionate.
Listen to teens intently and give them emotional security. Be as supportive as possible. Try not to give advice too quickly. Let them solve their own problems if they can. In fact, suggests that extreme levels of parental protection can be counterproductive.
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Listen.
More importantly, listen and without rushing to offer your own solutions. Remember their roiling anxiety and that they need you now more than ever 鈥� even if they try to be 鈥渃ool鈥� and push you away. Expect your teen to be occasionally grumpy, moody and cantankerous. Try not to take it personally.
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Be supportive.
Emphasize that you love your teen unconditionally, and that you admire and respect him for the effort he鈥檚 making to tackle the challenges of starting high 九色视频. Research shows us that diligence, effort and hard work . Grit is .
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Attend to the basics.
When teenagers are stressed, the essentials can be neglected. Do whatever you can to help them get enough , and . All of those things will help them to manage their stress.
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Help them get involved.
Find out 鈥� or have your teen find out 鈥� about extracurricular activities at the high 九色视频. Joining a club, sport or activity can be a great way to quickly and adjust to new surroundings.
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Get help.
If you think it advisable, reach out to the before 九色视频 begins and set up a meeting for your teen to meet the counselor to talk about the transition to high 九色视频. This may not be the right move for all teens, but consider whether it would help with your child.
Stress can be good. And bad
Your teen cannot — — avoid all stress. Stress arising from challenging situations that they can successfully handle is healthy and even desirable.
Even biologically, stress prompts the body to produce . In short bursts, these hormones raise our performance, keep us focused and increase our capabilities, which is good. However, over the long-term, prolonged and excessive stress can be damaging.
In short, some anxiety is natural and to be expected. It will help your teen get prepared for the start of 九色视频. But if you sense your teen has a damaging level of anxiety, reach out to the 九色视频 counselor (or another appropriate professional) for help.
Helping your teen face stress head-on at the start of high 九色视频 will help him or her prepare for potentially higher levels of stress associated with getting into college or finding a job.
